Before 2020, football season created its own rhythm in our home, {{first_name | friend}}.

It wasn’t just about the New York Giants—though they were always the team. It was about Sunday unfolding a particular way: The anticipation before kickoff. The highs and lows of watching the game together. The way the living room slowly filled with energy while food came together in the kitchen.

My very first experience watching the Giants live is etched permanently in my memory. It was a brutal December afternoon, right after Christmas, and freezing cold. I hadn’t dressed nearly well enough for the weather. (A rookie mistake.) Somewhere along the way, someone spilled hot coffee down my back. Shortly after, another person spilled beer. By the end of it all, I was wet, shivering, and completely miserable.

That day sealed the deal for me. I decided I would only attend live games before November—and otherwise, I was perfectly content watching football from the warmth of my living room, wrapped in dry clothes, with good food and better company.

And that’s where the real ritual lived.

What I realize now is that football was never the ritual.

Floyd was.

I watched because I loved sharing that space with him: the excitement, the commentary, the way he patiently taught me the game. He made it special every single time. He cooked food inspired by the teams playing, turning Sundays into something intentional and celebratory. Even when the score didn’t go our way, the day still felt full.

When we first started dating, I’ll admit, football wasn’t exactly my passion. I used to tease him that I just enjoyed watching men in tights. (Their behinds were impressive.) That always made him laugh. And somewhere between the jokes and the teasing, I fell in love with what football gave us—time, connection, shared excitement, and a table that always felt welcoming.

After Floyd, that ritual almost disappeared.

I’ve watched football since, and I’ve enjoyed it—but it’s different. Because what I miss isn’t the game itself. I miss the way it held us together in that shared space. The easy companionship. The joy of sharing food, laughter, and emotion around something so ordinary, and yet so meaningful.

Rituals change when the people we love are no longer physically beside us. Some fade. Some soften. And some live on quietly, carried in memory rather than routine.

This month, I’ve been thinking about how rituals don’t vanish—they transform. They remind us of love that was lived fully, joy that was shared generously, and moments that mattered more than we realized at the time.

And maybe that, too, is a ritual worth honoring.

With love,
Barkha

Spice of February

Cardoz Legacy Vindaloo Masala!

Our Cardoz Legacy Vindaloo Masala is bold and unapologetic—tangy with vinegar, warm with spices, garlicky, and gently fiery. Its roots trace back to Goa, shaped by Portuguese influence, where wine and garlic (vinha d’alhos) met Indian spices, evolving into the deeply flavorful vindaloo we know today.

This Vindaloo Masala is complete—it doesn’t need much else. If you choose to layer, smoked paprika, cumin, or black pepper work beautifully. But what really makes it sing is balance: a touch of acid and enough fat to let the spices bloom. This beautiful masala is for cooks who trust their instincts and aren’t afraid of flavor.

While traditionally paired with slow-cooked meats, I love using my Vindaloo Masala in unexpected ways: 

  1. Toss with olive oil over vegetables before roasting.

  2. Rub all over pork, lamb, or steaks.

  3. Stir into chili or braised beans (for depth).

  4. Season shrimp or fish for vibrant tacos.

  5. Add a pinch with butter (to soften the heat) for Eggs Benedict!

February recipe

Kheema Chili (with Vindaloo Masala)

February calls for food that feels grounding—warm, familiar, and deeply satisfying—yet still full of spark. This chili delivers exactly that. 

It’s inspired by a classic American winter chili and a traditional Indian kheema (a combination of spiced minced meat with onions, tomatoes, and aromatics). Then, I layer in our bold, tangy, warming Vindaloo Masala. Altogether, this vibrant chili is ideal for gathering a group on quiet, cold nights, around game day spreads, and when celebrating Super Bowl Sundays alike—familiar enough to scoop up with chips, but layered and soulful in flavor.

Why to try this recipe:

  1. Tastes even better the next day, so a convenient make-ahead recipe.

  2. Easy to double the batch for crowds.

  3. Keeps warm in a slow cooker, so it’s perfect for lengthy gatherings.

  4. Fun to make festive with toppings for a build‑your‑own chili bar!

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